We might have the flat stomach and the flawless skin in our twenties, but when it comes to sex, things most definitely get better with age.
Forget menopausal hot flushes, wrinkles and grey hair, girls... middle age is when the really good stuff happens in the bedroom.
New research has revealed that middle-aged women enjoy a romp much more than the younger generation - not only are they having more of it but it's more pleasurable.
According to the study, 54 per cent of women between the ages of 18 and 30 had trouble reaching orgasm but only 43 per cent of 31- to 45-year-olds reported the same problem.
And the US researchers discovered that the 31 to 45 age group are the most sexually active, with 87 per cent getting a regular fix.
The study, published in the British Journal of Urology, suggested that women in middle age are more comfortable with their partners and have higher self-esteem, which may be partly why they enjoy those intimate moments more than their younger counterparts.
Previous surveys have shown that women feel sexier in their 40s and 50s too, with middle-aged ladies spending more and more on lovely lingerie.
We knew there had to be an upside to getting older!
What do you think? Has your sex life got better with age? Leave your comments below...
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Thursday 29 July
By The Doctor
They don't scream, they don't yell, and they're as grateful as hell. Give me an older woman every time.
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Thursday 29 July
By John
Clearly YOU are doing something wrong - they DO scream, and they Do yell!
Thursday 29 July
By Ben Dover
Make your minds up!! Two weeks ago you were telling anyone who cared to read the crap that after 40 you're past it! I'm 47, my lady is in her 50's, has a body that a lot of 20 year old girls would kill for, and we're very happy thank you very much.
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Thursday 29 July
By Rosemary Davies.
Sex is only as good as your lover........... Whatever your age. it isn't rocket science, it's not a secret, it's common sense.
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Thursday 29 July
By Terryd
I am a red blooded dirty old man. (RBDOM)
RBDOM = red blooded boy + 30 years - teeth + grey hair + it takes longer.
So if you are a thirty year old, go for it guys. The alternative is cabbage.
Do not believe stories about being unable to stand for a lady after age forty, either. I'm sixty three, close to sixty four. Taking longer than ten minutes is not boring, if I even think of taking less than fifteen, I am under death threat. Fair enough, by sexual exhaustion, so I do try sometimes.
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Thursday 29 July
By Dolly
Dont know about the middleaged - but, its better and better every year! I`m 76 by the way!
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Thursday 29 July
By John
I can't answer for any man other than myself, but it is true that woman in their late thirties - mid-forties (and beyond!) are FAR better at sex, and enjoy it more, than do younger females. Gone are the distractions of children/soft-furnishings and 'keeping-up with the Joneses' - a more mature woman understand her sexuality better than does some young flibbertygibbet who thinks her 'looks' are enough to get by; they aren't!
Older women are GENUINELY more sexy in every respect!
If any younger women think otherwise; I say only this: how do YOU know differently? You can't 'know' differently until you are older...therefore, your opinion is invalid!
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Thursday 29 July
By Kay
John, you are SO right. I'm approaching 50 pretty quickly and I can honestly say I've never felt more sensual, attractive and sexy. Sexy isn't how you look, it's a state of mind and when you're mind is in the right place it leads to you feeling sexy! Many women my age, myself included, know what we like and aren't ashamed or afraid to ask for it, or use some gentle guidance if needed!
Dolly, good for you girl! I intend to be enjoying sex for many years to come too !
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Thursday 29 July
By The Doctor
John: I was only quoting Benny Hill.
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Thursday 29 July
By Laura Sommer
I have to admit that I no longer feel confident enough for a man to see me naked. I'm 45 and haven't had regula sex for almost ten years...I'm sure part of it is because my husband at 59 has completely lost interest in sex due to medications and health problems. As I don't want to cheat, I've had to make do with 'taking care of it myself'. Perhaps some people remain sexually active and others don't. Good on you if you can, though I tend to think that as I lose my fertility, I can't really see the point of it anymore. Call me old-fashioned...but I wouldn't want a man to see my sagging tits and huge belly. I'm just vain, I guess.
I still wonder though if there are a lot more celibate couples out there than the media would have you believe. It seems inevitable that things are going to slow down, especially if at least one in the couple start suffering health problems which can affect sex drive. Perhaps life has its seasons...but for those of you older women who are still out there 'getting it' then good for you.
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